A SEA OF LIGHT IN MEMORY OF OUR LOVED ONES December 10, 2017

Great Apologies that it became necessary to cancel this anticipated event.
for additional listing of other local candle lightings, please check
https://www.compassionatefriends.org/wcl/

WORLDWIDE CANDLE LIGHTING VIRTUAL MEMORIAL WALL

In honor of our 21st Annual Worldwide Candle Lighting share a message to our memorial wall in memory of your child, grandchild, or sibling.
Sharing to the memorial wall will be available until Wednesday 6:00 pm (EST), December 13th.
The memorial wall will remain on our website until Summer of 2018 at
https://www.compassionatefriends.org/wcl/memorial-wall/

 

Please Register Using Form Below

PLEASE CLICK TO VIEW THE 
WHAT ♥ WHY ♥ WHEN ♥ WHO ♥ WHERE
WHAT TO BRING ♥ WHAT TO WEAR ♥ HOW TO REGISTER
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Thank you
,
Lisa Cortese, Cristina’s mom 
for hosting host our gathering, through the generosity of her mom, Norah Gadomski,
in Memory of Cristina Marie Cortes and Bernie Gadomski
57 1/2 Elm Street Rockville, CT
located close to the corner near Rockville General Hospital
and the huge stone Congregational Church.
Mrs. Gadomski’s private home  is located behind
“NORAH’S PLACE”
(A Residential Care Home and Assisted Living),
NORAH’S PLACE is a beautiful Victorian yellow house.
with a ‘statue’ of a horse and buggy in front.

All chapter members, their families and friends are invited to attend.
Unlike our meetings, we do not limit age.
If you have a young one who you feel could participate, they, too, are welcomed.
Also welcome are any bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings
who may have never attended or can not attend a TCF EOTR CT Chapter meeting,
but would like to become part of the gathering.

Those attending our chapter’s candle lighting are asked to bring an item or two to contribute to our Pot Luck Supper, Snacks and Desserts.
We will be running a slide show presentation of all of our  loved ones.
Photos can be submitted electronically by emailing them to Bettie-Jeanne at  TCFEastOfTheRiverCT@gmail.com before midnight December 7.
If you’d like, share a few words about your child’s  or sibling’ life; their likes or dislikes, what made them laugh, what made them special.
If you have a poem or reading that you would like to contribute, please email also (or bring it with you).

This is NOT a Holiday Party ~ But there will be  holiday decorations.
It is an informal, caring gathering,  of “like-hearted” families who understand the challenges faced not only at this time of year, but all the days of our lives.

 An RSVP is appreciated via the form below
Questions?  email   Bettie-Jeanne at
TCFEastOfTheRiverCT@gmail.com
or  leave a voice message or  leave a voice message at 860-375-EØTR (3087)

 

please list the name of the person being remembered with the name of the person attending & relationship in ( parentheses) For example: Robyn (Janet & Ted Flanagin, Robbie's aunt and uncle)
We are planning a pot luck dinner before the candle lighting with desserts and snacks after the candle lighting. Entries, Appetizers, Desserts, Salads, Beverages are all appreciated, but are not necessary to be able to attend.
Sending

WHY ATTEND?

I don’t have words to describe the emotion that enveloped me at all of our at The Compassionate Friends National Conferences.
Each time, there I stood, shoulder to shoulder, heart to heart with 1,500+ other bereaved moms, dads, and siblings.
Each year, in a light originating from a single flame, until the glow enveloped the hall, we lit candles, one from the other, in memory of our loved ones.
As the flame was passed, we were recipients of the gift of the child’s name who brought light to our dark candle.
Then Jim and I proudly spoke our RobynApril’s name as we gave light to the candle next to us, and heard, in return, their own beloved one’s name. 

I have lit candles at home for our daughter and taken comfort from the connection that was felt.
But there was something deeper, more meaningful, when I stood among others who knew my heartache because of  living their own.
At that moment,  eyes locked, Jim and I reached for each other’s hands
below the glow of the lights, and without a word exchanged, we felt deeply connected in the moment.
We were Robyn’s parents, together; each living the experience of her death alone, and yet sharing the deep loss, together, as her family.
Sharing a Candle Lighting with other bereaved parents, siblings, grandparents, friends, family is Profound, Intimate, Important.
For the past 21 years, The Compassionate Friends has hosted a Worldwide Candle Lighting that reaches across the globe like a sea of brightness,
uniting family and friends who light candles for one hour to honor to remember children who have died from any cause,
at any age from pre-birth to full maturity.
As candles burn down in one time zone, they are then lit in the next, creating a virtual 24-hour wave of light
as the observance continues around the world.
To provide for intimacy and a “homey” atmosphere,
our TCF East Of the River CT Chapter chooses to join the world’s largest candle lighting at the private home of one of members.
This year we thank Cristina’s mom and grandmom for hosting this very special gathering.♥

More information about The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting Event can be found on our own website at
December 10, 2017 TCF East Of The River CT Candle Lighting
Honoring Our Loved Ones
A list of other Connecticut and other Candle Lighting events,
including the on-line virtual candle lighting
and signing of the  Remembrance Book,
can be found on the National Website under
News and Events /Worldwide Candle Lighting.

Helping Others In The Darkest Time of Their Lives

4 June 2015
PLEASE HELP BY MAKING EVEN A TINY DONATION

robyn Purple Framebpink roses - 1rpyH-17D - printI have become a Proactive Griever.
Don’t misunderstand, I have plenty of happier moments, now,
BUT
I have not stopped missing my daughter.
I have not stopped wishing that she were still living, breathing and having earth plane life, with me….
AND
Being a Bereaved Mom STILL Sucks!

I NEVER expected to be able to go on 6 minutes, 6 days, 6 weeks, 6 months without having a living Robbie by my side.
And, now, here I am 6 years later,
not only still alive, but, every day, supporting and caring for other bereaved parents who haven’t yet
gotten to this place where THE LOVE out shadows
THE DEATH.

The Compassionate Friends
is what has helped me to become
AN INTENTIONAL SURVIVOR
of my Daughter’s Death
rather than succumb to becoming
A COLLATERAL VICTIM.
(thank you, Mitch Carmody, Kelly’s Dad,  and Alan Pedersen, Ashley’s Dad, for introducing me to that concept).

Now through TCF,
I not only strive to help myself, but to reach out to other bereaved families and support them,
in the same way that I have found compassion and understanding within our Chapter walls.

Every day, I try to be there for other bereaved family members,
to give a hand, a hug, love, caring and support.
To be there AS LONG AS IT TAKES
for the rawness of the worse pain ever known to a parent or grandparent
(and some of the worst for any sibling)
to finally be nudged out of the way by LOVE
(and finally for some, HOPE).

I do this, all,
IN HONOR OF MY DAUGHTER,  ROBYNAPRIL.

It is through the friendship, understanding, and hope provided by
The Compassionate Friends
that I am able to keep working surviving this most terrible of nightmares.
I am asking for a small tax deductible contribution to help me keep our TCF Chapter running.

I am asking for your help.
We need financial donations in order to keep our
The Compassionate Friends
East Of The River CT  Chapter
Going.
Every penny I, and other chapter members, help to raise
GOES DIRECTLY to keeping the chapter up and running to care for other bereaved families.

http://tinyurl.com/RememberRobyn2015

Every ounce of my efforts is because
I Want,
I Need
To Do GOOD WORKS
in Robbie’s Memory.

If you have ever cared about me,
or care about Robbie,
PLEASE
Don’t Let Robyn Be Forgotten!
Don’t Let The Children Of Our Chapter BE FORGOTTEN!
Collage Robyn
I can’t say it any more plainly that that.
I never expected to be without Robbie and every day it still hurts.
Every day I still wish it were different.
6 years later and  I am still struggle to accept our REALITY that Robbie will only dance next to me in spirit now.
I am in a different place than I have been, but “finding my footing” and regaining an enjoyment of living is very slow going.
Nothing in life prepared me for the Death Of My Daughter and it has dramatically changed who I used to be.

Every 29 seconds a family somewhere in the United States will experience the death of a child.
NO ONE IS IMMUNE.
I know this heartbreak all too well since my RobynApril left the earth plane December 4, 2008….the day that every thing changed for our family.

Every month The Compassionate Friends,
through its 650+ chapters and the National Organization,
provides bereavement support to tens of thousands of families like ours.
Jim and I began the East Of The River CT Chapter
so that we could reach out to help other families enduring their own nightmares.

I know that money is really tight all the way around these days.
I haven’t been able to work since Robbie’s death and every penny counts.
Jim has had, now, 5 heart attacks that prevent him from being a wage earner.  (and being 71 doesn’t really help either!)
We truly understand a really tight budget.
Your financial support doesn’t need to be huge.
Little bits can add up.
The minimum that the on-line Friends Helping Friends TCFWalkToRemember.org site accepts is $5.00
….and even that helps me feel as if you care; and that Robbie isn’t forgotten, that she still matters.

The WALK TO REMEMBER is how we raise funds for our East of the River Chapter,
allowing us to reach out and support others in need.
100% of every donation made on line makes it directly to our The Compassionate Friends East Of The River CT Chapter.

I can’t imagine how it would have been if right after Robyn’s death I had no one to turn to at all…
…no one who “got it”
and who could just be there to help me through that most awful beginning
…and still remains to help now….
TCF has become a caring family and a safe place.

By supporting us during The Walk to Remember fundraising drive,
you will be helping Our TCF East Of The River CT Chapter to raise money
to continue to meet and to expand vital programs and outreach to bereaved families in our area.
You’ll be helping us to help others
IN PAIN,
CONFUSION,
ANGER,
and HURT
who desperately need a little light brought to their darkness to survive the worst tragedy of their lives.

TCF NEVER charges for any services, but we need funds to keep going.

SPONSORING IS SIMPLE
MAKING A DONATION IS SIMPLE
JOINING OUR FUND-RAISING TEAM IS VERY MUCH WELCOMED
http://tinyurl.com/RememberRobyn2015

—just use the link and follow the prompts.
Thank you for helping me to honor the memory of my daughter, RobynApril.
Thank you for honor the memory of all of our Chapter Children.
Thank you for helping to keep them all alive in our hearts.

PS
Please consider joining our VIRTUAL WALK team.
Then, you can use the site to safely AND NON-INVASIVELY email
your family and friends,
inviting them to do a GOOD WORK
of making a tax-deductible donation, too–

And, if you are able, please JOIN OUR FREE DAY OF COMMUNITY & CARING
www.WalkToRememberCT.org

Hugs, love and Light to all,
~Bettie-Jeanne,
Forever Robbie’s mom
f tearchild hand butterfly

 

A SEA OF LIGHT IN MEMORY OF OUR CHILDREN December 08, 2013

Please Register Using Form Below

WorldWide Candlelighting 2013

Thank you
Ken and Arlene
 Dworetsky,
Daniel’s parents,
For sharing your home
63 Long Hill Drive
Glastonbury, CT

All chapter members, their families and friends are invited to attend.  Unlike our meetings, we do not limit age.  If you have a young one who you feel could participate, they, too, are welcomed.  Also welcome are any bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings who may have never attended or can not attend a TCF EOTR CT Chapter meeting, but would like to become part of the gathering. Those attending our chapter’s candle lighting are asked to bring an item or two to contribute to our Pot Luck Supper, Snacks and Desserts.  We will be running a slide show presentation of all of our ‘children’.  Photos can be submitted electronically by emailing them to Bettie-Jeanne at  TCFEastOfTheRiverCT@gmail.com before midnight December 7.
If you’d like, share a few words about your child’s  or sibling’ life; their likes or dislikes, what made them laugh, what made them special.  If you have a poem or reading that you would like to contribute, please email also (or bring it with you).
This is NOT a Holiday Party ~ There will be no holiday decorations.
It is an informal, caring gathering, rather like our Vernon Diner Breakfasts and After Meeting Get-togethers of “like-hearted” families who understand the challenges faced not only at this time of year, but all the days of our lives.

 An RSVP is appreciated via the form below Questions?  email   Bettie-Jeanne at TCFEastOfTheRiverCT@gmail.com or  leave a voice message or  leave a voice message at 860-375-EØTR (3087)

 

please list the name of the person being remembered with the name of the person attending & relationship in ( parentheses) For example: Robyn (Janet & Ted Flanagin, Robbie's aunt and uncle)
We are planning a pot luck dinner before the candle lighting with desserts and snacks after the candle lighting. Entries, Appetizers, Desserts, Salads, Beverages are all appreciated, but are not necessary to be able to attend.
Sending

WHY ATTEND?

I don’t have words to describe the emotion that enveloped me these past four summers at The Compassionate Friends National Conferences.  Each time, there I stood, shoulder to shoulder, heart to heart with 1,500+ other bereaved moms, dads, and siblings.  The first three years, in a light originating from a single flame, until the glow enveloped the hall, we lit candles, one from the other, in memory of our loved ones.  As the flame was passed, we were recipients of the gift of the child’s name who brought light to our dark candle.  Then Jim and I proudly spoke our RobynApril’s name as we gave light to the candle next to us, and heard, in return, their own beloved one’s name. (this year because of restrictions at the hotel in Boston, we were not allowed to light open flames and instead used battery operated candles.  It was still symbolic and nice, but didn’t have the same impact as the burning flames of the lit candles.)

I have lit candles at home for our daughter and taken comfort from the connection that was felt.  But there was something deeper, more meaningful, when I stood among others who knew my heartache because of  living their own.
At that moment,  eyes locked, Jim and I reached for each other’s hands
below the glow of the lights, and without a word exchanged, we felt deeply connected in the moment.  We were Robyn’s parents, together; each living the experience of her death alone, and yet sharing the deep loss, together, as her family. Sharing a Candle Lighting with other bereaved parents, siblings, grandparents, friends, family is Profound, Intimate, Important.  For the past 17 years, The Compassionate Friends has hosted a Worldwide Candle Lighting that reaches across the globe like a sea of brightness, uniting family and friends who light candles for one hour to honor to remember children who have died from any cause, at any age from pre-birth to full maturity.  As candles burn down in one time zone, they are then lit in the next, creating a virtual 24-hour wave of light as the observance continues around the world. To provide for intimacy and a “homey” atmosphere,  our TCF East Of the River CT Chapter chooses to join the world’s largest candle lighting at the private home of one of members.
This year we thank Ken and Arlene, Daniel’s mom and dad, for sharing their home.♥

More information about The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting Event can be found on our own website at
http://www.tcfeastoftheriver.org/candlelighting2013/ ‎
Worldwide Candle Lighting December 08, 2013 Honors Our ‘Children’
A list of other Connecticut and other Candle Lighting events, including the on-line virtual candle lighting and signing of the 2013 Remembrance Book,  can be found on the National Website under
News and Events /Worldwide Candle Lighting.♥