I know that it sounds dramatic, but the truth is, Alan is a savior to me. Along with a few other very special people in the grief community, Alan helped me to find a way to becoming an Intentional Survivor of … Continue reading
Every day, through the month of December 2017, our
The Compassionate Friends National Director, Debbie Rambis,
is hosting conversations about Hope in Grief,
through TCF 31 Days of Hope videos, on youtube.
Each video offers the perspective of a TCF member who lives this life;
who started, as many of us start, with thinking that Hope may be impossible,
or even that Hope is a word of which we may never relate…
but, slowly, each person has come to a place of Different Living.
On these videos they share the HOWs, WHYs, WAYs of Surviving Their Grief.
They share how they are becoming or have become, Intentional Survivors, instead of Collateral Victims of their Loved One’s Death.
You are invited to post your own personal message of Hope, with a photo of your loved one, on
The Wall of Hope
Check Back for Updates as New Messages of Hope are Created
TCF 31 Days of Hope 2017 (pdf Table of Links)
|DAY||PRESENTER||LOVED ONE||TCF TINY URL|
The Compassionate Friends
|2||Mark Rambis||Tony’s Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-2|
|3||Erica McKeel||Murphy’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-3|
|4||Steve Parker||Alyssa’s Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-4|
|5||Marcia Alig||Daniel’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-5|
|6||Jordon Ferber||Russel’s Brother||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-6|
|7||Bob and Mary Lane||Amanda’s Mom and Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-7|
|8||Theresa Iervolino||Jessica’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-8|
|9||Debbie Dullabaun||Little Dale’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-9|
|10||Donna Flynn||Rich’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-10|
|11||Barbara Allen||Jessica’s Mom
John Roger’s Sister
|12||Sue Williams||Bernard’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-12|
|13||French Smith||Steve’s Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-13|
|14||Roy and Barbara Davies||Roy and Taylor’s Mom and Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-14|
|15||Allie Sims||Big A’s Sister||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-15|
|16||Patrick Malone||Lance’s Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-16|
and Benjamin’s mom
|18||Debbie Floyd||TJ’s mom
Bobby, Michaels and Carl’s sister
|19||Art Estrella||Brian’s Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-19|
|20||Spring Texas Chapter||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-20|
|21||Cathy Tull||Sarah’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-21|
|22||Nivia Vazquez||Madre de José Francisco||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-22|
|23||Julie Brown||Korie and Kacie’s mom to angel babies||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-23|
|24||Heidi Horsley||Scott’s sister and Matthew’s cousin. She talks about sibling grief.||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-24|
|25||Bart Sumner||David ‘s Dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-25|
|26||Peggy Johnson||Jordan’s Mom||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-Day26|
|27||Mark Tull||Sarah’s Step-dad||https://tinyurl.com/TCF31DaysofHope2017-27|
4 June 2015
PLEASE HELP BY MAKING EVEN A TINY DONATION
I have become a Proactive Griever.
Don’t misunderstand, I have plenty of happier moments, now,
I have not stopped missing my daughter.
I have not stopped wishing that she were still living, breathing and having earth plane life, with me….
Being a Bereaved Mom STILL Sucks!
I NEVER expected to be able to go on 6 minutes, 6 days, 6 weeks, 6 months without having a living Robbie by my side.
And, now, here I am 6 years later,
not only still alive, but, every day, supporting and caring for other bereaved parents who haven’t yet
gotten to this place where THE LOVE out shadows
The Compassionate Friends
is what has helped me to become
AN INTENTIONAL SURVIVOR
of my Daughter’s Death
rather than succumb to becoming
A COLLATERAL VICTIM.
(thank you, Mitch Carmody, Kelly’s Dad, and Alan Pedersen, Ashley’s Dad, for introducing me to that concept).
Now through TCF,
I not only strive to help myself, but to reach out to other bereaved families and support them,
in the same way that I have found compassion and understanding within our Chapter walls.
Every day, I try to be there for other bereaved family members,
to give a hand, a hug, love, caring and support.
To be there AS LONG AS IT TAKES
for the rawness of the worse pain ever known to a parent or grandparent
(and some of the worst for any sibling)
to finally be nudged out of the way by LOVE
(and finally for some, HOPE).
I do this, all,
IN HONOR OF MY DAUGHTER, ROBYNAPRIL.
It is through the friendship, understanding, and hope provided by
The Compassionate Friends
that I am able to keep working surviving this most terrible of nightmares.
I am asking for a small tax deductible contribution to help me keep our TCF Chapter running.
I am asking for your help.
We need financial donations in order to keep our
The Compassionate Friends
East Of The River CT Chapter
Every penny I, and other chapter members, help to raise
GOES DIRECTLY to keeping the chapter up and running to care for other bereaved families.
Every ounce of my efforts is because
To Do GOOD WORKS
in Robbie’s Memory.
If you have ever cared about me,
or care about Robbie,
Don’t Let Robyn Be Forgotten!
Don’t Let The Children Of Our Chapter BE FORGOTTEN!
I can’t say it any more plainly that that.
I never expected to be without Robbie and every day it still hurts.
Every day I still wish it were different.
6 years later and I am still struggle to accept our REALITY that Robbie will only dance next to me in spirit now.
I am in a different place than I have been, but “finding my footing” and regaining an enjoyment of living is very slow going.
Nothing in life prepared me for the Death Of My Daughter and it has dramatically changed who I used to be.
Every 29 seconds a family somewhere in the United States will experience the death of a child.
NO ONE IS IMMUNE.
I know this heartbreak all too well since my RobynApril left the earth plane December 4, 2008….the day that every thing changed for our family.
Every month The Compassionate Friends,
through its 650+ chapters and the National Organization,
provides bereavement support to tens of thousands of families like ours.
Jim and I began the East Of The River CT Chapter
so that we could reach out to help other families enduring their own nightmares.
I know that money is really tight all the way around these days.
I haven’t been able to work since Robbie’s death and every penny counts.
Jim has had, now, 5 heart attacks that prevent him from being a wage earner. (and being 71 doesn’t really help either!)
We truly understand a really tight budget.
Your financial support doesn’t need to be huge.
Little bits can add up.
The minimum that the on-line Friends Helping Friends TCFWalkToRemember.org site accepts is $5.00
….and even that helps me feel as if you care; and that Robbie isn’t forgotten, that she still matters.
The WALK TO REMEMBER is how we raise funds for our East of the River Chapter,
allowing us to reach out and support others in need.
100% of every donation made on line makes it directly to our The Compassionate Friends East Of The River CT Chapter.
I can’t imagine how it would have been if right after Robyn’s death I had no one to turn to at all…
…no one who “got it”
and who could just be there to help me through that most awful beginning
…and still remains to help now….
TCF has become a caring family and a safe place.
By supporting us during The Walk to Remember fundraising drive,
you will be helping Our TCF East Of The River CT Chapter to raise money
to continue to meet and to expand vital programs and outreach to bereaved families in our area.
You’ll be helping us to help others
who desperately need a little light brought to their darkness to survive the worst tragedy of their lives.
TCF NEVER charges for any services, but we need funds to keep going.
SPONSORING IS SIMPLE
MAKING A DONATION IS SIMPLE
JOINING OUR FUND-RAISING TEAM IS VERY MUCH WELCOMED
—just use the link and follow the prompts.
Thank you for helping me to honor the memory of my daughter, RobynApril.
Thank you for honor the memory of all of our Chapter Children.
Thank you for helping to keep them all alive in our hearts.
Please consider joining our VIRTUAL WALK team.
Then, you can use the site to safely AND NON-INVASIVELY email
your family and friends,
inviting them to do a GOOD WORK
of making a tax-deductible donation, too–
And, if you are able, please JOIN OUR FREE DAY OF COMMUNITY & CARING