IT ISN’T CRAZY TO MOURN THE DEATH OF A CHILD

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I know a young mom and dad who carry with them a stuffed Minnie Mouse, which emotionally connects them to their deceased Baby Girl.  Sometimes they take photos of themselves with their now named “Makenzie Mouse”, as if they are taking family shots with their little girl who will never get to be in a family photo.  They have been known to put a lobster bib on Miss Mouse, symbolic of bringing their Baby Girl out to dinner with them.

People, even members of their family, think that they are CRAZY.

They aren’t Crazy, they are Just Grieving.

They know that the stuffed toy isn’t their daughter.  They know, in a hard and painful reality much too harsh for those who don’t live it to understand, that their little one is now cremains in an urn sitting in the room that was intended to be her nursery.  They know that their first born will never go on a family trip, or get to be read stories to, have a baptism, or a first birthday party…

They KNOW.

When they bring their stuffed Makenzie Mouse (a nickname for their little Baby Girl) with them places, they KNOW that it is not their living breathing Baby Girl, because she never had a chance to do either.  It doesn’t matter if there will be other children to share their lives, THIS CHILD matters, IS SPECIAL, IS IMPORTANT and will ALWAYS, ALWAYS be their child. They might carry a stuffed toy, bringing comfort to them, for as long as they want to, but they ALWAYS, and will ALWAYS, carry their deceased little girl in their hearts.

Their daughter’s body ended.
They KNOW that.|
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But their relationship with their daughter didn’t end.
Their love for their daughter didn’t end.
Their dreams for their daughter’s should-have-been future remain in every fiber of their pores.

And this is the way it is, Every Day, for bereaved parents.

The bodies of our loved children may be lying in breathless repose on silks in a casket buried under sodden earth, or cremains worn in a pendant around our necks, and the rest of the “civilian world” may view them as Dead, Gone and No Longer, but they Remain Alive in our memories, in our dreams, in our desire and in our hearts.  They are still active parts of our conscious thoughts and decisions.  We think about them every day, just as we would if their lungs still shared the same air on earth we breathe.  It isn’t just missing them on their birth dates or their death dates or every family gathering; they are in our blood, in our love, in every thought behind the thoughts, behind our smiles and our tears; they are just as much as part of us as if they lived.

We ARE, after all, their parents for as Long as We Live,
not just as long as they did.
Makenzie mouse

 

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If you are the parent, sibling, grandparent, friend of a deceased loved one whom you would like to remember and honor
join us for
A BIG GIANT HUG
Connecticut 3rd Annual Statewide Walk to Remember
FREE Day of Community and Caring
Sunday July 21, 2013
Center Springs Park
Manchester, CT
check-in at 11:00
Walk begins at 12:00
FREE Cookout immediately following
Register NOW
Photo T-Shirts are available to RESERVE (ORDER) NOW
Learn More
www.WalkToRememberCT.org

Walk To Remember is a beautiful statewide tribute to the memory of children taken too soon and the strength of those they leave behind.
But it’s so much more than just a shared walk.
From the pot luck picnic to the butterfly release, music to memory boards, it’s a day to celebrate the healing power of the human spirit.
 

Bereaved Parents Join Together

 

BEREAVED PARENT, SIBLINGS, GRANDPARENTS, FAMILY AND FRIENDS
are all invited to join us on

THE THIRD ANNUAL STATEWIDE WALK TO REMEMBER ~
DAY OF COMMUNITY AND CARING

Sunday July 21
Center Springs Park
Manchester, CT
pre-registration requested

WHERE EVERY DECEASED CHILD IS REMEMBERED AND HONORED

Highlights from our
First CT STATEWIDE WALK TO REMEMBER -2011

ProActively Grieving Helps Heart and Mind !

View pdf Flyer- OK for Reprinting

Turning Loss Into Legacy
Greetings My Compassionate Families

If you have ever felt overwhelming grief and wondered
HOW
IF
WHY
YOU WOULD WANT TO MAKE IT THROUGH TO EVEN  ONE MORE DAY
Then Attending
A DAY WITH MITCH AND ALAN
is a Gentle Gift to Give Yourself

The Event is being hosted by our TCF East Of The River CT Chapter
16 February 2013
Baymont Inn and Suites
20 Taylor Street  Manchester, CT

There is a cut off day of early bird-registration by midnight February 5
to receive special fees
Full and Partial Scholarships are available

Bettie Mitch Alan

I KNOW Mitch and Alan.
They have become my friends and Mitch is actually a member of our Advisory Board ~ the only non-Connecticut person who we invited to our Board.

Each of these men are amazing in their separate workshops, but together, their energy is so strong, so powerful, so profoundly deep that you will be promised a day that will impact you in ways that you can not yet imagine.

Their friendship forged through the loss of their children, Kelly and Ashley.

Mitch is also a bereaved sibling, having experienced the death of his twin sister who left the earth in a horrific car accident.

Mitch and Alan live what they bring to their guests in the gathering.

You can trust these dads.
They “get” deep loss.
They live it…..
AND they CAN HELP YOU.

This event is NOT  only for those who have lost a child, grandchild or sibling, but for anyone dealing with grief and loss in life.

Bring yourself.
Bring a Friend.
But GO.

Do This for yourself.

PROActive Grieving:  A Day with Mitch and Alan is a combination of Alan’s powerful music and Mitch’s incredible art wrapped around love, laughter, healing and provocative dialogue.

Sending hugs to all,

~Bettie-Jeanne,

Forever RobyApril’s Mom