Bereaved Dad Offers Hope, Compassion, Understanding

A BEREAVED DAD REACHES OUT TO OTHERS THROUGH HIS MUSIC AND WORDS

ALAN AND DENISE PEDERSEN

Angels Across The USA Tour Event
Hosted ByThe Compassionate Friends
East Of The River CT Chapter
September 7, 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Hampton Inn & Suites
1432 Pleasant Valley Rd
Manchester, CT

When I think of Alan and Denise Howard Pedersen and The Angels Across The USA Tour, I think of sipping hot chocolate, wrapped up in a warm fuzzy blanket on a frigid winter’s night, howling winds attempting to rattle the windows, but feeling safe and protected inside.  Alan and Denise tour theUnited States providing caring, compassion, love and understanding to the bereaved.

On Friday September 7, at 7:00 Alan and Denise will be making an appearance for the TCF East Of The River CT Chapter  at the Hampton Inn & Suites, in Manchester, CT. 

Alan’s presentation features a mix of humor and straight-from-the-heart talk with songs about love and loss.  In October of 2010 Alan and Denise helped us recognize the opening of our newly founded chapter with an evening of song and stories.  Those attending left with the feeling of having been hugged all night.

Said one dad,
“It wasn’t even just his music, though the music is beyond great.  It was the words in between the songs.  I guess I knew that they were grief counselors, but I didn’t realize how much one evening could help me so much, just listening to Alan and everything he shared.”

From a newly bereaved mom:
“Alan sang to my soul.  It is like he looked inside of me and told me that as much as it hurts and it is going to hurt, that somehow, someday, in a different way, it will be ok.”

I know that for me, what Alan shared from his own grief experience after the loss of his own beloved daughter Ashley, and his music, opened a door for me that I needed to go through in order to keep my sanity and (and I am not sure how to explain this…) return to loving Robyn in a gentler, warmer way.

This event or any of the other Angel Across The USA events can make a “better” difference in your life.  Over and over, I have heard Alan quoted and paraphrased by so many who attended our 2010 event.

“When asked how long will you grieve, Alan’s response was perfect:  As long as she is dead.”

“I am her dad, for not as long as she lived, but as long as I do.”

 Alan not only gives the bereaved permission to grieve, and even encourages the necessity of grief, but provides a safe place to smile and laugh, and remember with gentleness.♥
~Bettie-Jeanne,
Forever RobynApril’s mom 

 DETAILS

PRE-REGISTRATION
BECAUSE OF LIMITED SPACE PRE-REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED

Seating is limited to the first 40 who register.
Confirmation emails will be sent within 24 hours of registration.
In the event that we need to relocate the event every attempt will be made to contact all those who have registered, so please make sure to double check your contact information.

Is the EVENT LIMITED TO BEREAVED PARENTS AND SIBLINGS?
(Because the songs and conversation is centered around bereavement, grief, and healing, it may not be appropriate for young children with short attention spans who may become disruptive.  Please use good judgment in bringing children. )

Though Alan, Denise are both bereaved parents, Alan’s events are NOT LIMITED TO BEREAVED PARENTS.  Anyone who has experienced grief or experiences grief from the loss of a loved one will find both Alan’s music and the words spoken between the songs encouraging and compassionate.
To learn more about Alan and Denise, The Angels Across the USA Tour, or to receive their FREE Grief and Beyond  Newsletter, visit their site  at
Angels Across The USA or on Facebook 

HOW MUCH TO ATTEND?
Courtesy of The Compassionate Friends East Of The River CT Chapter, the event is free to all those attending.  Donations will be accepted, separately, for both the East Of The River CT Chapter and the Angels Across the USA Tour.

Alan and Denise will have CDs and other Angels’ merchandise available for purchase.  ♥

OTHER AUTUMN CONNECTICUT DATES

Alan will also be in
Monroe  Connecticut~  13 September
Appearing for THE TONY BROWN FOUNDATION:
Edith Wheeler Library
733 Monroe Tpke  Monroe Ct

Stamford, Connecticut  The Compassionate Friends ~17 September
7:00-10:00
Tully Health Center
32 Strawberry Hill Court, Stamford, CT

FOR OTHER REGIONAL AND NATIONAL APPEARANCES VISIT
ANGELS ACROSS THE USA EVENTS CALENDAR 

 

 

A Candlelighting Made Most Special~ Thank You Alan Pedersen

On October 6, 2010 bereaved dad, singer ~ song writer, grief spokesperson Alan Pedersen came to Connecticut,with the mission of ANGELS ACROSS THE USA and touched our hearts with his words.  Alan shared his own journey after the loss of his daughter, Ashley, while validating the pain, heartache and longing for hope that parents, siblings and grandparents experience after the death of their loved one.

“I can’t tell you how much Alan meant to us,” one bereaved dad from the Farmington located Central Connecticut Compassionate Friends Chapter said.  “I don’t really know what I was expecting, but being with him that night, listening to him, crying and laughing alongside of him, has meant more to my wife and I than I can tell you.  Thank you so much for having him [in Connecticut] and inviting us to be part of that evening.”

Another parent shared, “Something changed for me being there that night listening to Alan.  He lets us know right from the beginning that its OK to cry and even OK to laugh, but that we’ll never forget.  Like that song he sang, we won’t get over but we may move through.”

At the very beginning of the event Alan shared how one “civilian” approached him after the first year anniversary of Ashley’s death, wanting to know how long he was going to grieve.  Alan’s response resonated with every person in the audience…”As long as she is dead.”

The evening of song and personal stories ended with a candle lighting ceremony in which all were invited to speak their deceased loved one’s name as their candle was lit, and share a few words about them.  Plenty of tears were shed, as well as smiles over bittersweet memories as a sea of candles provided a glow of HOPE.

Alan ended the evening by singing TONIGHT I HOLD THIS CANDLE, an anthem for thousands of candle lighting ceremonies worldwide.  Alan shared, “God wrote this song.   I consider myself fortunate that he trusted me to hold the pen.”  And though the candles were finally extinguished as family members gathered in the back of the auditorium for connecting, conversation and refreshments, the light of the memories of who they represented will always burn brightly in the hearts of their families.♥